You get what you focus on, so focus on what you DO want rather than what you don’t want. Here’s why. Your unconscious mind doesn’t process negatives. If I say, don’t think of a yellow taxi cab, you immediately make a picture of that yellow car and then tried to negate it. Have you ever gone on a diet only to find you’re eating more? Your mind is constantly thinking of food and then trying not to. Tell a kid NOT to spill his drink, which is an unconscious directive – delete the NOT – to spill!
Asset-based work focuses on what you are good at rather than trying to correct your faults or get better at something you’re not good at. A gifted concert pianist who works hard to improve her singing or grant-writing ability is ignoring what her genius is. Self-help often focuses on foibles or weakness rather than on strengthening assets.
Focusing on personal transformation or self-help requires a larger context for it in order to be more than self-serving. You may ask yourself, self-improvement for what purpose? If your purpose for it has a larger context, then it has a compelling need driving it. What are your skills and assets and how can you use them to create the life/world you desire? Who can you collaborate with to augment your effectiveness?
My book is based on the idea that internal perceptions get projected out to external reality. Internally create what you want to have happen in the world and allow that to transform it. More than a self-help book, it urges the reader to examine what they are projecting and what their higher purpose is for creating that reality. It looks at the big picture for what our thoughts are creating.
From “Change Within Change the World.”
by Jane Battenberg
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